The other night I ate an entire bag of Skittles in bed while watching “Modern Family” episodes with my husband. It was really fun while it lasted (so were each of the other bags of Skittles I had eaten every day over the past 5 days), but I woke up with a hangover… a “frumpy mom” hangover.
The next morning I told myself, “that’s it. It’s time to pull yourself together.” I dreamed of posting photos of healthy, vibrant pregnant women, as well as images of fruits and veggies, in my room where it would be the first and last thing I’d see each morning and night. This seemed like it would be incredibly motivating, even if just subliminally. However, I got dressed in my usual “mom uniform” of yoga pants and a comfy shirt and was off to the races.
Then, I got a text from a thriving, talented business woman and mother that I’ve worked with previously and have admired for years. She happens to be gorgeous and healthy, as well. She was contacting me about a business opportunity to work with her and her clients. However, I let her know how I’m no longer doing business anymore and am focusing totally on my family and homeschooling (mentioning homeschoolchic.com on the side, of course).
After replying, rather than feeling on fire with the passion I normally feel when I think about living my life purpose as a mother, I felt even more frumpy. It felt like I had just come out of the closet confessing, “I’m a frumpy homeschool mom who wears stretch pants every day, eats crappy junk food all the time and only puts on makeup for special occasions.” I felt embarrassed and felt like anyone who’s ever known me – especially professionally – would no longer be able to perceive my value and intelligence because I “sold out” and am now “just a mom,” with all my talent and brains being “wasted.”
HAVE YOU EVER FELT LIKE THIS, TOO?
My little girls must have sensed that I was feeling this way. They joined forces to give me a “makeover.” As they put every single flower clip that we own into my hair, they said things like, “Mom, you look so BEAUTIFUL!!!” I would smile a half-hearted smile and say, “thank you,” but inside I felt like it was all such a lie. Recognizing this feeling, I stopped and asked myself why I didn’t believe that I could be beautiful, talented, brilliant and even “chic” as a homeschool mom?
The whole belief pattern that I was suddenly excluded from the category of passionate, vibrant, exciting mothers now that I’m focusing on homeschooling was absolutely ridiculous. I decided to change this belief pattern immediately and OWN brilliance and beauty in my life!
I let loose and enjoyed the makeover my girls were giving me and wore all of the crazy flower clips in my hair, feeling of the love my girls had given me with each clip. I embraced the moment and celebrated such a beautiful experience with my daughters whom I love like CRAZY. They even inspired me to put on some make-up, which made me feel more put together and vibrant. I had my son take a picture of me and my “beautiful-ers” (the name my girls gave themselves for when they’re doing a makeover).
I was reminded of one of my favorite quotes from a woman I adore and admire, Marjorie Pay Hinckley:
“I don’t want to drive up to the pearly gates in a shiny sports car, wearing beautifully, tailored clothes, my hair expertly coiffed, and with long, perfectly manicured fingernails. I want to drive up in a station wagon that has mud on the wheels from taking kids to scout camp. I want to be there with a smudge of peanut butter on my shirt from making sandwiches for a sick neighbors children. I want to be there with a little dirt under my fingernails from helping to weed someone’s garden. I want to be there with children’s sticky kisses on my cheeks and the tears of a friend on my shoulder. I want the Lord to know I was really here and that I really lived.”
All of this got me and Jenny thinking that it was time to define what it actually means to be a “chic” homeschool mom. Because of this, we created the Homeschool Chic Manifesto. More will be coming soon with this, including a beautifully designed typography version available for free download. We’re EXTREMELY excited about the Homeschool Chic Manifesto!
Our hope is that it will light up and inspire your homeschool journey also so you can enthusiastically, whole-heartedly claim all the beauty and brilliance that lies within you!
Check out the Homeschool Chic Manifesto HERE and let us know your thoughts in the comments! We can’t wait to hear what you think!